“When R’ Yochanan ben Zakkai asked his disciples to go and see which is the best quality to which a man should cling, his disciple R’ Eliezer answered: ‘A good eye’. What he meant here was…the ability to see the good in a person or situation.
People who come up with negative judgments often think that they are cleverer than other people, and are sharp enough to see through false impressions to the real truth. In fact…it requires just as much cleverness and insight to arrive at a positive impression of a person or situation.
This was Jacob’s greatness: that although he had more reason than anyone else to view Esau negatively…what he noticed most clearly about Esau was his merit of honoring his parents, so much so that in his mind it dwarfed all his own merits.”